Why do i find gay men attractive
Re: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to gay guys
Unread postby Sam W »
Got it, so it does sound like a big part of this simply has to do with a certain type of guy (but not the only type of guy) you find attractive.
When you want to be a guy in those moments, what is it, specifically, that you want? Is it to be able to engage in certain things sexually? To have a certain role in a sexual dynamic? Something else? And when you say this happens when you see sweet gay guys in your surroundings, are those guys who you know are gay, or who watch a certain way?
With fetishizing or objectifying people, that depends on whether you see these guys as individual, unique humans or more as a blank slate that you can project your desires onto. It's also sound to think about what's attracting you to them and how much of it might be based on stereotypes about that specific group (it might be the case that none of it is) rather than the realities of that individual person.
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Why do some straight men have sex with other men?
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