How to attract other gay men
What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his research into what straight women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to dig deeper and doodle out a true list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the gay and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities show in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The same comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
Facing your preferences
A unused study from a researcher at Harvard University finds that gay men are most attracted to the most masculine-faced men, while straight men prefer the most feminine-faced women.
The findings suggest that regardless of sexual orientation, men’s brains are wired for attraction to sexually dimorphic faces — those with facial features that are most synonymous with gender.
The study is published online in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, and was led by Aaron Glassenberg, while completing his master’s degree in the Department of Psychology at Harvard. Glassenberg is a doctoral student in organizational behavior in Harvard’s Faculty of Arts and Sciences and Harvard Business School. Glassenberg’s co-authors are David Feinberg of McMaster University in Ontario, Benedict Jones and Lisa DeBruine of the University of Aberdeen, and Anthony Little of the University of Stirling, both in Scotland.
“Our work showed that gay men set up highly masculine male faces to be significantly more attractive than feminine male faces. Also, the types of male faces t
Gay men have a reputation for having a three-word philosophy: Anything That Moves. There's a perception that we can possess whomever we want whenever we want for whatever we need. Not factual. We throw a watch or a smile and if we get it back, SCHWING! But if we don't get it back -- and faith me, mostly we don't the wheels come off. We're as threatened by beauty, tongue-tied by crushes, and paralyzed by terror as straight guys when they see a adj woman.
That's why the reaction most gay guys include when they see somebody at a party or a bar goes something like this:
• Who's the cute guy in the corner and why isn't he looking at me? • I can't depart over there and verb something unless he looks at me, I just can't • If he were interested he'd peek back • Damn, he's not looking • I wouldn't know what to say, anyway • I'm lonely • How am I supposed to move on a date if I can't even encounter somebody? • God, he is so cute • This is ridiculous, just go talk to him! • But he's not looking • The last time I got the nerve to say something the guy just turned his back on me • WHY WON'T HE LOOK A
The Attractive Gay Man
In less homophobic countries fancy the UK and France, certain surveys show that about 4% of the adult population identifies themselves as homosexual. The taboo in exploring one’s sexuality makes a lot of people conform to the social expectation that they are supposed to be heterosexual cis-gendered individuals. Even if an individual explores her/his identity and finds out that she/he doesn’t fit the social norm; the stigma that haunts an individual in the aftermath of coming-out scares away people from publicly sharing their sexuality. Hence, this 4% is a highly deflated number. But still, let’s work with this 4% by assuming that this percentage of the world’s population is gay.
4% means only 1 boy among the 50 students in our co-ed classroom, 10 men in a student batch of our college, or about 20 men in the (say) clients, customers, colleagues, suppliers, workers, staff, etc. that we deal within about 10 years of work, all considering a 50% sex ratio. With ‘Coming-Out’ still being so difficult in India, I am sure most of us won’t even comprehend who that