Can you be mormon and gay

As a gay Mormon, I make my home in the borderlands. In a theology that says every man must be married to a woman in order to be with God and progress in heaven, gay Mormons are anomalies. No one quite knows what to execute with us.

For a while, the answer was to serve a full-time mission, marry a woman, inform no one, and verb things work themselves out.

When that approach led to tragedy and broken families, the answer became celibacy, which is less of an answer and more of a holding pattern in a religion that declares the family to be &#;the most important unit in period and in eternity.&#;

Every doubt, from &#;How can I be happy with no possibility of finding a companion?&#; to &#;Will I still be gay after this life?&#; seems to be met with official answers amounting to &#;Have faith. It will serve out in the end.&#; And, yet, despite these difficult and unanswered questions, I choose to endure to participate in my Latter-day Saint congregation and community.

So if I don&#;t belong, why stay? There are plenty of affirming faith communities where queer people and their families